my first time in YEAAAAAAAAAAARS partying on the new years. last time was about 5 years ago when I went to a club alone. this time I got invited by that co-worker who figured me out always talking about the 40 year old virgin. it was fun. we hit the club. it was DEAD when we got there. we the first ones. then went to eat, him and his friend were both high as fuck laughing constantly. i was like huh... cool. im just not finding shit funny cuz i didnt smoke and not planning on it. i was the driver.
there was one girl that was sooooooooooooo cute. omg... I was in love. I approached 2 and my friend's friend didnt sit next to the 2nd one when i introduced them. he sat behind me. ok.. so she comes and sits behind the last girl thats the furthest from me. then i walk around the club and stuff and i see she ended up sitting on this side. i sat down next to her but didnt say shit. then eventually when i was just chilling listening to the hip hop music played by the dj, they all came on the dance floor talking. i just came up to her and told her that i think she is really cute. she was like... "thank yoU!" and shook my hand, like i was the only guy who said that to her all night. but i was like yeah ok.. 'have a nice night' and walked away. kept thinking about her all night and in the morning when woke up. i dont regret for not talking to her. me and my fucking problems make me talking to women almost suicidal. i have never really gotten anywhere, but maybe its because my thought pattern, and that i never think it is possible to have anyhthing to come out of it. who knows.. for now ill just focus on getting myself my own place after getting on my feet.
almost didnt blog about this, but just wanted to do so for my records. going to sleep now. gotta work in the morning tomorrow. and maybe even at night for retail... peace and love everybody....
7 comments:
that's what's up, man. :) the next time you're in that situation where you see a woman and you get a few words in. just push yourself to say more even if it's a whole lot of mumbo jumbo. what you're trying to do is trying to get her to be your friend so you get into your comfort zone where you can basically get more courageous. simply talk to her like you want to be her friend. try to block out the thought in your head that you want to date her otherwise you're going to get shy because you're going to be thinking about what to say to her or worried about what she thinks of you.
i think that your problem with talking to women is that you think way too much getting securing them for a date. they're no different than you. if they like you, they like you. if they don't, they don't. i don't think that a woman is suddenly going to jump onto you even if they like you. you have to pretty much get them comfortable enough to make them talk.
but yeah, man. congrats. i think that you simply should just friend more females so you can have more chances to get a girlfriend or to get laid. eventually you'll meet a woman that wants you as bad as you want her. you're almost there.
but bro, as for your thought process, you should congratulate yourself for moving forward. look back at your posts in the past few years. you remember when you said that you refused to go to this party because you were too nervous to go and you were avoiding folks. you're no longer doing it. just because you didn't come off with some easy woman doesn't mean that you failed. you succeeded. bro, one day you will get a girlfriend but til then, continue to work on yourself in the mean time. as i said just befriend more women that are SINGLE and you will get yourself a girlfriend. 1
yeah, I know I come along way. but I am not exactly 'not' avoiding people outside of this one time I went out. If I wasn't invited, I would have done what I do 99% of my life-stay home!
well, you have a car now and you have steady income coming in for the moment. you need to take advantage of both and use that to get yourself outside there more. use it as a means to challenge yourself.
haha look at paz coming thru with the advice. thats actually very on point
space. here's something to keep you hopeful about dating.
http://www.youtube.com/user/RB902050?feature=watch
thanks for the link, paz. that channel is fucking awesome.
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