Social Momentum - Week 1 + Asking an Aryan Girl out

Social Momentum

So, I stopped going out to clubs for the most part and drinking. At some point, my body started to reject alcohol. What I did on the weekends was the following:

• Prepare alcohol - I first started out with Corona, later on started preparing Vodka
• Go to a new/different club on Friday and/or Saturday
• Park my car and drink the alcohol - at first I'd drink 1 Corona, and then buy more liquor inside the club to get lose. Later, I prepared 4 vodka shots mixed with cranberry juice. This really saved me money. I'd drink the whole 4 shots right away. This really helped with PTSD and to calm my nerves

But at some point, what started to happen was my body started to reject alcohol. My body isn't of someone who drinks or can drink too much. So I cannot handle liquor like certain men. I first started to throw up literally each time I drank my 4 shots of vodka approximately 2-3 hours afterwards. And then headaches started to hit me, and hit me hard. I thought it was because I got cheap alcohol. I had about 20% left of Sobieski (Polish Vodka), so I dumped it all. Then bought Stalichnaya (very popular and more pricey Russian Vodka), but then the result was the same!

And what I'd do after the club is beat myself up "why didn't you approach so and so girl! She was your type! You could've said something you idiot!" But then the problem was this. I didn't talk to any strangers throughout my day. And when it was time to go out, I tried to talk to people to warm up, and then girls. It was like going from nothing, to everything. Unfortunately, this is how most men are (minus even warming up with strangers). They think by going out to a club, they'll find the right girl. But if they haven't warmed up for the day, week, month, etc.. socially, nothing magical is going to happen at night. Unless they are good with women already. And from my experience, most men aren't.

So, this whole week I have been warming up as much as I could. It really opened my eyes after watching this video (mainly the part where he mentions starting to form a habit of being social with strangers




It's still really difficult, as I am not used to it, but I am trying my best and hopefully will stick with it.


Asking an Aryan Girl out

So at my current job, there is a party each month. And all the people come with their co-workers. There is liquor, music, food, and all for free. I have been going there almost each month by myself. It's really nerve wrecking for me, but I go anyway. I warm up with people and managed to approach some girls a few times this year. But never closed the deal (this is my sticky point).

So yesterday, I go to the party by myself as usual. Then after having food, drink water, and chit chatting with some strangers here and there, my coworker spots me. I was like holy crap! You're the first coworker I've seen at these gatherings. He takes me where the rest of them are, and I join them. There is this really pretty Aryan girl there (not with the group, but with another group literally next to us).

I saw her before, but didn't say anything. I chit chat with my co-workers and 2 guys are drinking beer getting drunk. Then I end up talking with one of these guys, as others form another group amongst themselves talking with each other. We start talking about women, and for like 15 mins I am eyeing this girl but make sure she doesn't spot me. She was dressed casual, jeans, sneakers, and nothing fancy, sexual, or revealing. Then I'm like holy crap, she is so my type! Tall, nicely built, Scandinavian looking. I was really nervous cus I was thinking to approach her but didn't. Then finally, I tell my coworker to hang on for a sec. I open her up and start with a chit chat. Then introduce myself and him. Then this dude.... HIJACKS THE WHOLE CONVERSATION! He already has a g/f, but he's a good talker. So, he was like ME ME ME! I this, I that, etc.. I talked 20% of the time with her, and him 80. But the girl seemed really laid back, and open minded. Like she's really easy to talk with and not weird or socially awkward.

She was from Canada, and was just at our company for the summer. Finally, when he broke away to chat about something with our group I asked her if she dates shorter guys than her. She was about 6'0", I am 5'10". She was like "no". And then she followed up with "I am not looking. But I am flattered". After a few mins, she says nice to meet you, etc.. and goes back to her group. This was literally the first time I asked a girl out at these parties. I will keep going, though. It's much harder to do this alone. If I wasn't there with our group, I would've left 30 mins before I did. I'd feel creepy af standing by those girls by myself. Maybe my inner game is something else I need to improve.